You send a WhatsApp message to a friend, and you know they’ve read it (two blue ticks) but they haven’t responded. What’s wrong?
Your boss gives you ‘feedback’. Obviously, they have it in for you and think you’re rubbish.
Your partner is quiet and doesn’t want to talk. What are they up to?
And the thoughts keep on coming.
Overthinking is something everyone does. A prerequisite of modern living to fill in the gaps with your version of events.
The problem with overthinking is it usually involves a situation that’s outside of your control and often involves someone else.
In other words, the ‘overthinker in you’ is thinking on behalf of the other person.
Here’s the truth.
The other person isn’t overthinking. They probably don’t even have you on their radar.
Your friend, who read your WhatsApp message (but didn’t respond) is probably busy. They hope to reply later: But if they forget? So what, you’ve done it.
The boss who was overly critical in your eyes, sincerely believes they’ve given you some good positive developmental feedback. And not just that, they think that one day you’ll thank them for it.
Your quiet partner is just being… quiet. A little quiet time is ok. They think you’re being over the top by wanting to fix everything.
What’s the solution?
Overthinking only fills the gaps when your mind isn’t occupied with something more positive and productive.
Focus on what you can influence.
Fill your time moving forward.
Give others a chance. Odds are they’re doing their best.
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