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Your job is not to annoy me
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Your job is not to annoy me

Michael Heppell
Michael Heppell
June 5, 2025

Last Saturday my wife smiled and said, ‘Your job today is not to annoy me.’

I smiled back and said, ‘Or your job is not to be annoyed by me.’

We laughed (well I did) There was a bit of shared truth.

Welcome to Reframing.


It’s one of the most powerful skills in your personal development toolkit.

Same moment. Same situation. Different story. Different outcome.

Most people are waiting and wishing for the world to behave before they feel good.

But what if you flipped it?

Don’t stay the same - reframe

Traffic jam?
A perfect chance to listen to that podcast.

Awkward meeting?
You’re sharpening your people skills.

Plans changed?
Flexibility muscles activated.

Annoyances will queue up whether you like it or not.

The traffic jam doesn’t care how busy you are.

The email doesn’t know it arrived at the wrong time.

The person pushing in front of you isn’t doing it to you, they’re just…

The moment you reframe, you reclaim

You can see life as full of interruptions - or full of chances to practise patience.

You can see criticism as an attack - or as feedback with an edge.

You can see delays as wasted time - or as unscheduled breathing space.

The frames don’t change the reality.

They change your reality.

And often, that’s all you need.

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