The Joy of Rationing
May 6th 2021 by
I remember my mother and grandmother telling me stories about rationing. For my mum, it was only being allowed 2oz of sweets (57 grams). For my grandmother, it was everything – from butter to soap. When I go out for a hike with Mrs H, she very kindly creates a sweet bag. We stock up from a website called aquarterof.co.uk and they have all the classics you and […][...]
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Put Less In – Take More Out
April 28th 2021 by
It’s the opposite of what you’ve been taught. But you know how I like to Flip It! He are some times when putting less in really can help you to get more out. Less negativity in = More positivity out Less criticism = More room for praise Less complaining = More time for complementing Less worry = Finding more confidence Less moaning = More smiling Less focusing on self = More focusing on others Less pointing out bad drivers = More keeping your […][...]
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Leave the raft
April 21st 2021 by
Imagine crossing a river. Your mode of transport is a sturdy, well-built raft. Once you dock, instead of leaving the raft, you drag it out of the river and carry it on your back. All day, every day. This would be seen as crazy behaviour. And yet you and I do it. The Raft is your learning. Sometimes we’re so focused on our own learning, discovering the next new thing, striving […][...]
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Missed It
April 9th 2021 by
It’s one of those weekly things I habitually do. I write it on Tuesday or Wednesday, to make sure it arrives every Thursday. This newsletter. Yesterday, it didn’t arrive. And for a very good reason. I hadn’t written it. I could have blamed writer’s block (which doesn’t really exist). Or technology – claiming it was sent, you just didn’t […][...]
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Delayed Gratification
April 1st 2021 by
I have a coaching client, Claire, who this week shared with me a most wonderful idea. She’s planting… seeds, bulbs, cuttings, seedlings, tubers, etc. A minimum of one item, every day, for 90 days. She knows that even before Day 90, she will see the fruits of her labour. Plus, the garden gifts will keep on giving – long after the initial 90 […][...]
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I thought you would be taller
March 18th 2021 by
I’ve waited a long time before sharing this story. We’d been asked to present a How to Be Brilliant keynote for a new client at their staff conference. The Chief Exec and I had two telephone conversations to find out about live issues and to dig deep on their ‘afters’ – what they wanted their staff to do / feel / act like […][...]
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I get to go to work
March 4th 2021 by
I was listening to Clubhouse recently when someone shared a brilliant idea. For the last 10 years he’s told his kids that he, ‘Gets to go to work’… Rather than ‘Daddy has to go to work’. The change is subtle, the difference in meaning huge. He explained, ‘If you say you have to go, kids learn quickly from their parents. They’ll soon have to go to school, they’ll have to tidy their room, etc. I want […][...]
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The spark is the start
February 24th 2021 by
Every Wednesday I take an hour or so to write this newsletter. I love it. It’s never a chore. And writing it makes me better. Finding a subject isn’t a challenge. I can always think of ideas – because I have a secret tool… It’s books. But not necessarily reading them. Being inspired by being […][...]
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5 Instant Destressors and No Mention of Meditation
January 28th 2021 by
Count to 17: Counting to ten was the old way to calm. These days it can take a little longer and a few more fingers. Feel better? If not… count again. Remove decisions: Decisions cause micro stressors – see last week’s newsletter and the brilliant comments from readers. Scrunch your hands as tightly as you can… then […][...]
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Why Routine Rocks
January 21st 2021 by
Every time you need to make a decision, you are adding some stress to your life. Even the smallest decisions create micro stressors. The more decisions you have to make, the more micro stressors you put on yourself. They build and build and then… The solution? Routine. And it’s not just me who thinks this. […][...]
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